I’m married with two children. I shout into the void regularly, daily in fact. I don’t suffer from lack of confidence, I’m a misanthrope who loves individuals, art, books and all things askew. An upper middle class suburbanite trained from birth to meet the needs of others and perform consistently. It can be exhausting. I’d never, ever read you lobotomized. :-D. My kids will lead their own lives. Gay, straight, married, asexual. I didn’t have them for me. They are not mine. They are beautiful conscious entities I help shape. I hope I do a decent job while we travel together. Variations on the same theme. Life is fluid for us all. Be well friend. I love your writing.